I like to use the following illustration with kids when I talk about dating. David is not dating just Donna, a very cute girl with a beautiful smile and a terrific personality. This means Donna is, in a spiritual sense, dating Jesus, who lives inside David. Kids need to learn that they should treat their dates as if Jesus lives in him or her.You might find it helpful in your ministry situation too. When our students decide to follow the way of radical respect, it will help to keep their life free of problems in the many relationships they have with persons of the opposite sex. Exclusive dating refers to two people dating each other. Inclusive dating refers to kids relating to many friends of the opposite sex. Inclusive dating provides kids with a great opportunity to hone their opposite sex relationship skills while providing a safer environment for them to stay accountable and on track in keeping the "Purity Code".The apostle Paul summed up the Christian attitude when he said: Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.If you have access to a journal via a society or association membership, please browse to your society journal, select an article to view, and follow the instructions in this box.Contact us if you experience any difficulty logging in.This may just be one of the most important lessons related to living out the "Purity Code".
Ehrhardt, the Emory peer educator, agrees: “Rather than playing the role of someone who says, you’re not ready for this, don’t do it, [parents] should be there to support their children and talk to them, and really educate them and tell them.” A lot of parents believe that if their teens were in an abusive relationship they would be comfortable telling them, but is that really the case?This is sometimes due to the age and experience difference between teen and parent, and also the parent viewing the teen as a child and not a young adult.When it comes to dating, “I think a lot of parents have sort of a negative outlook on it.When kids exclusively date at an early age, they set themselves up for easily breaking the "Purity Code".
Youth workers and parents can help create a culture with teenagers that embraces the inclusive dating concept.
An inclusive date can be five girls and four guys who go to the mall together. Far too many students begin exclusive relationships too early.