Dating for women in their 30s
They are waved through school and into the pros, and incidents of bad behavior are overlooked or covered up.
Any skills they may have been developing for self-control or self-denial quickly wither.”In other words, if you didn’t “make it” until you’re 40, you’re more likely to have built up some measure of restraint and humility that prevent you from infidelity. Cons: Losing my wife and kids, losing all my endorsements, losing a few hundred million in a public and messy divorce, losing the respect of the world, losing my golf mojo and confidence, possibly forever.
This works quite well for the procreation of the species.
But we were not necessarily built for relationships that last forever. So often these days men find themselves single again in their late 30s or early 40s.
In youth, the game of sexual relationships is played according to the rules dictated by women. Young women of child bearing age have a clock ticking and they know that they need to find the most suitable father for their children.So to the men I say, hit the gym, drop a few, increase the cardio (you’ll need it! You’ve got some serious dating to do to make up for lost time.It would be tempting to say, “because they can”, wouldn’t it? As noted in this Time Magazine article, modern-day men of power – Donald Trump, Bill Clinton, Eliot Spitzer, John Edwards, John Ensign, JFK, FDR, and most recently, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Dominique Strauss-Kahn – are noted for their serial wives and philandering.Suddenly, there’s all this pressure to find someone and you really start to psych yourself out.
It’s unfair, but this pressure is more of a reality for women in our current society — and suddenly you feel the need to explain “why” you’re “still” single, instead of being able to live your life on your own terms.
The other factor that many men forget about is that many of the guys they used to compete with, are now out of the game. Some have just given up on relationships after being burned a couple of times. Finally the biggest factor that an older man has in his favor is that he can now date easily 20 years below him and few people think there is anything wrong with it.